Abbi and I were talking about using life experiences as a starting point for fiction. She wrote on her blog about a time when she perhaps had a potential kidnapper right in front of her, and as she expressed it "stared down her worst fear, and even argued with it" or words to that effect. Then I thought about our daughter Kelli who WAS kidnapped as a young teenager, only we were led to believe that she had run away...and the horrific aftermath of that event, which was life-changing for all of us. And I thought about my other four children...had I ever lost them, even for awhile? Yes. Indeed. And it is always so frightening to lose a child; my heart goes out to those who lose them permanently, because even the temporary losses are chilling.
Actually, Abbi was the first of our children to "go missing." It was on Canada Day. Probably in about 1984. We watched the parade from the corner of our street and main street, a short walk away. After the parade, we were at home, and decided to go to the park and play. For some reason, Abbi wasn't quite ready to go. Bruce wasn't coming with us, but Kelli and I put David in the stroller and started, leaving Abbi to catch up with us. We were going to the park that was one block north and a half a block east of our house--just a short distance. The kids had walked there themselves dozens of times. We were walking slowly so she could catch up with us...she never did. We played at the park. She never came. We thought maybe she decided not to come, just to stay home with her dad. So we didn't worry, just kept playing. When David was ready to go, and Kelli probably hadn't had her fill yet, but crying babies usually win arguments like that, we went back home.
"Hey, Abbi, why didn't you come?" Bruce heard and said, "She did go. She left soon after you did. You mean, you didn't see her?" Now we were really worried! How could she have gotten lost? She knew the way to the park! Bruce thought she had left so soon after us that she should have been able to catch up with us while we were still on our way to the park. Yet we had looked behind us, and never seen her. Panic quickly set in, as we checked with neighbors, walked to the park different routes, drove our car around the neighborhood, all the looking you do...It was a big worry because what if she was kidnapped? With it being Canada Day, and the rodeo going on, there were so many more people and cars than usual...scary thoughts!
As is our custom, we prayed. We knelt and prayed, most fervently, that we would know where to look. We were on the point of calling the police, when a still, small voice whispered to me, "Look at the park where the pool is." I was surprised by the thought--that park was quite a long ways away, past the "downtown" part of the town. I didn't know if Abbi even knew the way to THAT park. We were definitely a swimming family, and Abbi was the most enthusiastic swimmer, but she had never walked there without a parent. Yet the thought had come in answer to prayer, I knew it. So I left the other kids with Bruce and drove over there.
And there she was. Sitting inside the wading pool area, waiting so patiently. "Where were you?" she asked. "I didn't see you." But, due to Canada Day, there were so many people at that park, she thought it prudent to sit and wait, because we said we would be at the park, so we must be there.
I thought that I had made it clear which park I meant. Apparently, I did not. I would never have expected her to walk to THAT park by herself. But it was her favorite park, so I guess that when I said park, her mind clicked onto her favorite park, and that was the one she walked to. I was just so glad to find her!! We went home and, as a family, said another prayer of thanks.