I am taking a Mythology class with Josie at the Salt Lake Center. Here is my first Myth Contemplation assignment:
I was reading Prometheus Unbound by Aeschylus,
and some of the lines hit home to me. At line 330, I read the words of Oceanus
to Prometheus, "You, in the meantime, stay quiet and don't overindulge
your tongue! Or is it that you, you Prometheus, with all your wisdom, don't
know that the uncontrolled tongue brings its own destruction?" These words
hit home because of some recent experiences I have had in my life.
I like to think of myself as a nice person, as a
kind person. I like to think that I have self-control. That I am easy to get
along with. But, like Prometheus, the truth is that sometimes I say things that
would be better left unsaid.
In this case, I was really
angry about some things that were going on in my workplace. I had been the
figurative Zeus of the workplace for many years, but then I was overthrown--or
at least my assignment at work changed, and so the hiring and supervision of
the student workers fell out of my purview. I was frustrated by this. I felt
like everything was great on our little Mount Olympus being run the way that I
had run it.
The new Zeus had different
ideas, and I felt like decisions were being made that were harmful to the
students, and even that the decisions would have a hurtful effect on Mount
Olympus. I felt that the students, the humans in this little analogy, needed
saving. I wanted to save them, to feed them, to give them fire. I wanted them
to be as powerful in their element as it was possible for them to be.
But the new Zeus in our little
kingdom and her sidekick Hermes were, I thought, prone to micromanaging the
humans, as if the Gods were watching at every moment, ready to pounce on the
unlucky human who made a mistake. My frustration was smouldering into
indignation. I would sit in my office, able to hear the students complaining to
each other. I thought their complaints were real; I took them at face value,
not seeing them as the venting and adjustment-making that they really were,
One day, one of the students
asked me, "Do you have any influence at all over what happens here
anymor?" And without thinking, I spoke. I overindulged my tongue, which
almost of its own accord said, "I feel completely devoid of any influence."
I did not realize that I felt entirely that way until the words were said
aloud, for my ears as much as for the ears of the student. I stewed about those
words that I had spoken, and they bothered me. I felt that I should have
influence. I felt proprietorial to both my workplace and "my"
students. I was driven to despair and agony, like Prometheus on the rock. I
could not sleep. I was in torment.
Finally, after what I thought
was much contemplation and consideration, I resolved to speak. Well, I did not
speak--speaking would have been a better choice--but I wrote. I thought I wrote
carefully. I thought I winnowed out the emotion and said only what needed to be
said.
But my words, even in their
written form, wounded. Their fiery darts pierced the heart of the new Zeus, who
was hurt and deeply saddened because of my tongue. I thought it was a
controlled tongue, a tongue of reason. But it was a hurtful, injuring tongue.
I thought that I understood the new Zeus's position towards the humans,
but I did not. I made us into adversaries with my words, when we should be
partners. I thought the new Zeus wanted to hurt the humans, but really she just
wanted to understand them. She was trying to do the same thing in the workplace
that I had been trying to do: she wanted to save them, to feed them, to give
them fire so that they could be the best humans they could possibly be.
How did I not understand that?
I thought I was "seeing something that is unbearable for the eyes to
see" (line 69) but my eyes were not in focus. The person who I thought was
ruining my little kingdom had no desire in her heart but to save the kingdom
and its inhabitants. I, like Prometheus, thought that I had all the wisdom,
that I was the only one to have "made all these discoveries for
mankind" (line 470) ie my student workers, and then as their situation
changed, I was suffering--a self-imposed suffering because I did not understand
the difference between their vented words, said and then moved on from, and
their true feelings. I kept those vented words and pondered them in my heart,
and they poisoned me, until I had no "wisdom to devise something from
which I (could) rid myself of my own suffering (line 470).
And so I hurled my words, my
fiery darts of destruction. I was surprised that they hurt, because I thought I
understood. But I didn't. I, like Prometheus, did "hurl such harsh and
cutting words about" (line 319). And that was a mistake. I should have
gathered more information. I should have asked questioned. I should have
assumed good will coming from the new Zeus, instead of assuming the intent to
destroy.
It would be bad enough if this
was an isolated incident. But it came to my attention that I had also hurled
some hurtful, damaging words at my son-in-law's Facebook posting a few weeks
ago, and that people were still hurting from the inconsiderate, uncontrolled
overindulgences of my tongue in that instance as well.
And so I had to re-examine
myself. Was I looking at myself through rose-colored glasses and missing the
truth that I can sometimes be hurtful? That I can sometimes be unkind. Not
nice. Lacking in self-control. Sobering thoughts. A good wake-up call to
me to "'stay quiet" and not to "overindulge" my tongue.
Reign it in; listen. Ask Questions. Be willing to hear all sides. Have
compassion for both Gods and humans.
I hope this is a lesson
learned. Because it has been painful, and I would not want it to be a forever
punishment, like Prometheus had to endure. I would not wish to be buried with
any person thinking that I was not the kind, gentle, nice person that I wish to
be. But if I don't want anyone thinking badly of me, then my words, spoken and
written, need to match that kind of description. I would be Prometheus Unbound,
not fettered to the rock of my ill-spoken words.